Guilt is an inherit emotion in all humans.  It is the feeling of doing something you knew was wrong or not doing what you knew you should have.  It is strongest in those who hold themselves up to higher standards than they do others or compare their conduct to a standard of perfection.  Some who survive a disaster suffer from survivor’s guilt asking “Why me?”  It is often illogical, always a form of self-condemnation and a result of judging yourself.


Once guilt is present it will surface anytime you feel threatened, insecure or powerless.  The answer is to love yourself enough to forgive yourself.  You begin by forgiving yourself for assuming as a child that there was something wrong with you.  Second, you forgive yourself for making the assumption that to be loved you must be considered “good” by others.  Third, you forgive yourself for assuming that you deserve to be punished, unloved, unhappy and suffer.  Fourth, you forgive yourself for the self-abuse you have inflicted upon yourself through guilt.  The lesson to be learned is that you acted or failed to act in a manner consistent with your values and ideals.  Remember the lesson then release the emotional energy to God and break the chains imprisoning you to the past.  Once you receive its message guilt has no value.  It then becomes a form of self-abuse and must be replaced with self-love or it can devastate your life.  Fifth,  reappraise your values.  Are they yours?  Are they your parents?  Are they unrealistic standards of perfection?  Remember you are in “soul school” and learn from your mistakes so cut yourself some slack!  Remove the “rose colored glasses” and discard the “what if’s.”  Show yourself love and then express gratitude that you are on the spiritual path getting closer to “unconditional love.”

Life Coach – Dr. Dean R. McCormick

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  1. Rev. Carol Wood says:

    Guilt is a heavy burden to carry around all your life, yet many people do. I believe once you learn to handle guilt and to remove it from your soul you will become a better person. We all feel guilty at times for things we say without thinking or when we have done something to hurt others.

    I agree with you when you say that past guilt will resurface when you feel threatened, insecure or powerless. As a pastor I saw so many people suffer with guilt when a loved one passed over to the other side. There are always those discussion of “If I only would have gotten him/her to the hospital on time, or “I said some things to this person that I wish I hadn’t, and now it is to late for them to forgive me.” One has to be willing to look at what happened and to be able to forgive themselves. Sometimes it means a person needs to talk it out with a trusted friend, clergy, or adviser so they can remove the emotional energy from within them.

    Once we can release the emotional energy we can continue on the path of finding “unconditional love.”

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