Something Deeper Is Going On

Why do we put ourselves in situations or states of mind wherein we suffer?  Almost instinctively we consistently resist change and struggle against what is.  Why do we expect life to be different from the way it is?  Why are we always setting ourselves up?  Where did we get the notion that the universe must follow our rules and meet our expectations?  We are driven by the fear of insecurity; therefore, we seek to create and maintain a secure environment.  The problem is that we live in a state of denial where we project upon phenomenon that are dynamic and others who are growing a myth of permanence.  Fact: suffering comes from our internal resistance not the external situations or individuals.  Fact: there is no security.  Fact: we are more peaceful and contented when we flow with what happens and are able to respond with creativity and resiliency.  Fact: when we change attachment to preference we become more effective in changing things our way since we no longer are fighting internal resistance.  Acceptance of what is empowers us to transform ourselves, particularly of limiting beliefs and attitudes.  Our awareness increases when we adopt the witness perspective at the first sign of internal discomfort.  Eckhart Tolle said we have three options in every situation: leave it, change it or accept it as it is; anything else is madness.  Fact: surrendering or letting go requires strength and a lot of courage.  Pema Chodron said, “When we resist change, it’s called suffering.  But when we can completely let go and not struggle against it, when we can embrace the groundlessness of our situation and relax into it’s dynamic quality, that’s called enlightenment.”  Byron Katie said, “Life is simple.  Everything happens for you, not to you.  Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon, nor too late.  You don’t have to like it… it’s just easier if you do.”  Eckhart Tolle said, “Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.”


Life Coach – Dr. Dean R. McCormick